我们的 M Club

几个月前看完这部连续剧后
就一直想写个关于这的post
很多那些年的回忆
都被勾了起来

和戏里的情节一样
我们的 M Club 在求学时代是很要好的
4 个女生 2 个男生
一起下课，一起留校，一起吃饭，一起补习
一起走街，一起褒剧，一起讨厌同一个人 =P
褒起电话来可以好几个小时
有几次甚至睡在对方的床上
大家共处的时间，敢敢比与家人还要长

分道扬辘后
开始的那几年
我们偶尔还会联络
再过三五年
大家开始有自己的朋友圈子
过着自己的生活
也许是因为我们都分布在地球的几个区域
也许那时没有whatsapp，通电话很贵，又有时差
建立的友情
慢慢淡化了
死党，变成了朋友/旧同学
总之不是会在priority list 里有名次的那种情况

每当想到着
自己难免会觉得惋惜
有时也会自责
没有巫小诗死缠烂打，打不死的精神
没有她宽心待人的态度

她们六个女生的 M Club 快乐收场合体了
那我们的 M Club 呢？

战 IV

人生无常
在生命的期限里
让快乐的日子比伤心的日子多
所以要尽量开心度过每一天

have courage, and be kind

 Some reflections upon finishing another term in the societal university:

1. 'Sorry' is the cheapest but powerful remedy
You might think that apology is costless and people would ignore it as nothing but cheap talk. In fact, it triggers an instinct to forgive, overcoming rationality. Ironically, many people are unwilling to get the word out of the mouth.
 
2. Modesty is a virtue that can rarely be observed, especially for ordinary people
 A sign of modest people are those who use words like 'We' instead of 'Me', or always put 'me' behind their conversations. Perhaps these are people who strives to shine or boasts their credits, thus explains the reason that they could not stop highlighting 'I'.

3.  It is easier to remember harm than good
Some people can just forget all the good and support rendered to them when one just did a small little mistake. The black dot on the paper always looks more eye-catchy despite the entire paper is white.

mh370 you are always in our hearts

Young Malaysians in particular, like myself, have taken the news of MH370 rather strongly, despite we may not know any of the victims, crew, or their families. Perhaps it is due to the fact that we have all traveled on  Malaysia Airlines before and so it feels like it could have happened to any one of us. Or maybe it is just the  sense of national pride which is now at stake so we all feel compelled to uphold it. Or simply, we are just very compassionate and sensitive gen-Ys.

It is officially a year and still no signs of MH370. The biggest hope right now, is that, we will be able to locate this missing aircraft and bring closure to the affected families who have suffered more than anyone should.

happy goat year :)

以前总觉得收压岁钱（红包）是理所当然

慢慢觉得给压岁钱（红包）是白天抢劫

现在觉得能给、能收，两者都是一种福气

意味家宅上下平安，没有丧事

 听说属龙者今年又再犯太岁了

但愿今年一切安好顺利

人人过个好羊年

excitement building up

The wait is almost over - It's just now a countable amount of days left until "Triumph In The Skies" movie bursts into our cinemas, in all its charms, stunning uniforms and chained-plot. 

First and foremost of course, Sam Gor with his passionate love and serious-but-hilarious look that he always portray.

Woohoo!

  

let's do what we think best for the last day of the year

The initial plan was to end the year with a light heart in conjunction with the festive seasons and to talk about quality time spent with loved ones and gratitude on academic or personal achievements.

It is slightly ironic then that writing this piece would be interrupted by news of the flood in the east coast and the discovery of QZ8501 with dead bodies and wreckage debris. Not forgetting the most recent Camerons landslide. It is a very horrible to seal the year, and i will mourn the passing of all the victims.

It is such an eventful, agonising and tragedy-filled year for Malaysia.

Year 2014 started very dry, with dam levels falling to critical levels and water rationing imposed in the Klang Valley for almost two months. At the same time, the area is stuck with haze and increasing dengue cases.

Then we had the disappearance of MH370 which till now unconcluded. Yet to overcome the despair, we were informed of MH17. Both the aviation incidents has led to a perpetual negativism and grief within the nation and its people.


It is true that we cannot control the harsh events that nature and unforeseen circumstances throw at us at times. But we can – and we must – prevent akin events and negative sentiments that causes harm to one another. People who have offered to help, are thankfully, still the majority. Which is why we often hear, in such times, remarks like “It takes a crisis to bring Malaysians together”.

In times of sadness, I am grateful to have by my side those who love me.

In my own life and for my country, my hope is that 2015 will be a happier year, and the world and country will be a more beautiful and harmonious one. It seems like a dream. But it can happen if we all make this resolution together. Chin up, hold hands together, and we will prevail.

10km后的启发

1. 太多的负担，会让你难以往前。

    学会放下，尽管有多么的不舍，才能让你走得更远。

2. 当你是一个人的时候，你可以任意随意决定你的速度和路线。

    当你是两个或更多人的时候，你必须互相扶持，

    有时甚至可能需要放慢你的脚步配合他人，

    因为这就是团队，这就是人生。

    很多事，很多决定，你的考虑不只是你一个人。

3. 当你快支撑不住的时候，趁有气力时快刀斩乱麻，不要再拖下去。

    因为拖着拖着，痛苦的时间更长，也不知道是否还有力气撑下去。

4. 不要轻易放弃，真的不要。

    咬紧牙根，柳暗花明又一村，你会熬过去的。

5. 凡事都有第一次。

    要勇于尝试，才会有所体验。

    尝试的勇气都没有，你永远都不知道路的尾端等待着你的是什么。

    

有一种回忆叫周杰伦

周杰伦公开了和昆凌的恋情，面子书疯传了两天。

其中最深刻的一段大家都在讨论的：

两个人能否走在一起，时机很重要。
你出现在他想要安定的时候, 那你的胜算就很大。
你出现在他对这个世界充满好奇的时候, 就算你多美多优秀都是徒劳无用。
爱得深，爱得早，都不如爱的时候刚刚好。

我庆幸。

11.11.2014

有些人说亲人逝世前会有预兆

妈妈新配的眼镜无端端断了

妹妹早上从楼梯摔了下来

三个小时后

就接到外婆逝世的噩耗

望着您的容颜

心里不禁期许您在天堂快乐逍遥着

或下辈子投胎到一头好人家

过个比这辈子更舒适，更美满的日子

外婆，一路好走

我好累

想不开,就不想
得不到,就不要
难为自己,何必呢?

pre exam 6.1

This time, it feels different and i'm hoping writing will ease my pain and discomfort even for a little bit:

1. I never fall sick so close to exam.
2. I usually have a mild revision prior to final revision.
3. I dont feel good about it.
4. This is the final paper to attempt (HOPEFULLY).
5. I registered a new email with ACCA and being a very very superstitious individual when it comes to exam, i hope this little twist in tradition is not bringing disaster.
6. Even my parents are skeptical of me passing this time. 

little therapy

Apparently there are 5 stages of grief/loss that are experienced by people from all walks of life namely the Kübler-Ross model.

In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage with different levels of intensity. The five stages do not necessarily occur in any specific order. We often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance. 

1. Denial and Isolation
This is a temporary defence mechanism where we block out the words and hide from the facts that carry us through the first wave of pain.

2. Anger

As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.

3. Bargaining
The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control. "If only we had sought medical attention sooner…", "If only we got a second opinion from another doctor…", "If only we had tried to be a better person towards them…".

4. Depression
This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. We may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words. Sometimes all we really need is a hug.

5. Acceptance
Many of us are not afforded the luxury of time required to achieve this final stage of grief. But if you do, congratulations! You got over it =)

Coping with loss is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience — nobody can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through. But others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing.

Reference: http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/000617

some little acts that never fail to cheer me up

Best way to kick off Friday morning =)

hello new friend!

Amid people gradually move from Apple to Samsung, i'm joining the crowd too.

Thank you for the advance birthday gift <3

After the short bliss, so now it's all the setup and migration which gonna take ample time:

- Contacts --> done (:
- Whatsapp --> still figuring out
- SMS --> less critical
- Images --> in progress
- Music --> next in line

And button control changes that needs to be got used with (part and parcel of transition hmm).

That's what happened when you don't back up your data on regular basis (i basically performed none). Extremely 'indulged' in researching on whatsapp transfer so if anyone do have any solutions, pls i'll appreciate your kind lifting hand :))

what happened in february

So the list goes like this:

Nevertheless, i'm still glad that nothing worse happened. 

Let's hope that March will be better! 

when valentines coincides with each other

今年西方情人节（2月14日），
也是中国的民间元宵节（农历正月十五）。
这一重合，19年才出现一次。
上一次是1995年，我们还小。
下一次是2033年，我们已老。

这个情人节，很重要。

trot trot trot trot

 

Hello again. Just to pen off a few resolutions for the year:

- To persevere through and complete my last sem of studies

- To spend more quality time with my family

- To get more organised with my stuffs etc

- To slower down my pace a little so that i dont overlook/mislook things often 

- To simmer down my temper and be really kind and polite to everyone

- More contribution, less destruction

- To lose weight

- To be more self-reliant with regained positivity

 

And only now this thought cross my mind. Should i just amend my wishlist. Gahhhhh!

马力全开

Happy Chinese New Year! The water snake is out and the galloping horse is here. It seems like it's going to be a good year (though not really so for someone of dragon) with lots of double happiness around: double valentine, double lunar month etc in which such occurrences are once in few decades.

Nevertheless, may it be a good year for everyone and your loved ones: good health, much happiness and great success! Gong Xi Fa Cai!

so, the journey begins...

Similar to many Chinese, I don't have a natural incline towards the figure '4' all this while really. Ironically, throughout my period of study, almost half of the time my allocated student number is 4 due to my surname. In uni, my student ID horribly manifested a double '4's. And membership cards, club cards, quite often, they have a '4' in it. Thankfully, I still pass my exams and enjoy my school time throughout.

The 2013/2014 transition had definitely been a very unique one for me. And now, with the new year, a new chapter, or even a new life begins.

So dear number 4, pls continue to make your wonders and magic =)